I need some guidance from the more exrerienced moms out there. I have a 2yo daughter and a 3yo son who have each booked work separately. I took them both to a test shoot yesterday and it was a disaster! my ds didn't want to stand on the mark, and when his sister did, he wanted to and wouldn't let her stand next to him, etc, etc. Granted, the photog wasn't very kid friendly, but I was mortified! Normally, I would take this as a great lesson and not submit them for anymore brother/sister things, but we have a meeting with a manager next week who wants to see them both. Should I try to schedule different appts or send her a warning LOL? They both get along with other kids very well and each other most of the time. They are just at the age where she thinks she's a "big girl" but her brother still views her as a baby.
Any advice on what to do about our appt next week?

Depends on who it is. If it is the manager you and I have been talking about, no worries. Just call her and let her know. Or email her. If it is someone else, you may want to bring someone with you so you can go in with each kid alone. Even tho the kids are young, you can still talk to them about appropriate behavior on jobs. Offer them some kind of small reward maybe.

I've been very lucky with my twins. 99% of the time they are great together. Just one time they went in together and argued. I heard about it later. . Since they almost always go in together and often work together we do a lot of role play and "rehearsal" with them at home and we reward them when they behave appropriately. They've been in the biz now for just over a year now and it's very rare for them to misbehave when at an audition, go see or job. The role play and rehearsal helped a lot. However...I try to never take the twins and my older daughter to a meeting or audition at the same time. The dynamic when the 3 of them together is not easy to manage. I try to avoid taking them together to anything work-related. I've tried role play ect with the three of them, but it doesn't seem to change anything. Once they start in with each other it's difficult to stop it. The twins are 3 1/2 years younger than her sister.

My kids are 3, 2 and a newborn and I have problems with them as well. I took the 2yr old to the babys job and she started crying because she wanted a turn and then I had the 3yr old with me at an auditon for the 2yr old and he was screaming because he wanted his picture taken as well.

It's tough. I wouldn't worry too much about the mgr mtg, I'm sure she'll want to see both and understand that they are little. It's more about taking them to the gosees and shoots for the other child. It stinks to have to pay a sitter for a gosee, but so worth it. I think of it as one-on-one time. Good luck. I hope for my kids it is just a phase and it will get easier. It will be so nice when they can understand a bit more (and can be bribed

Thanks for the advice!
not blond, yes we are finally going in! I think I may email her as suggested.
It's hard when they are too young to voice an opinion on whether they want to do this or not. I don't want to be "that mom"!
njmomto3, your story made me laugh - I could've written it myself (except for the baby!)
kipmil- thanks for your words of wisdom!

I love this board! I finally know I'm not the only one who practices/role plays with them at home